pt. 1 Goal setting

I don’t know how many parts this will be, but this is to keep me accountable.

Alright so, I’ll just be completely honest here this blog idea was great in the beginning and I was also trying to figure out why I wanted to start a blog in the first place. Was it because I wanted to turn into this well known writer (lol..just no) or did I want to generate income-okay but who wouldn’t? After taking some time to meditate on this I realize it was a way to organize and record my personal thoughts and growth through my life. I know I could keep it personal, I know I could write it in a journal but the way I’m set up, those things get lost weekly. I think I need a fanny pack for them so I never lose them, but then the fanny pack will get in the way so I’ll need to take it off then BAM! Lost, fanny pack, journal and probably chapstick. I can’t lose my blog! To the people I know, I’m a pretty open book so writing here is a little fitting. So, here I am creating this whole blog…for me. 🙂 Follow me on this goal setting journey.

How the hell do I blog? Is there a right or wrong way? Whatever I’m just going to do it my way anyhow. So my goal for this blog up until my next subscription is to work on my content everyday for 2 hours a day while also posting content twice a week. Right now it’s Sundays and Thursday. I’ve joined this new group that’s been challenging me to seriously envision my goals. Since building a blog has been on my mind I decided to make my goal exactly that. They’ve asked things like what does your goal feel like? Where are you when you achieve your goal? And honestly some more questions along the lines of sophomore writing prompts. I had to take this with a grain of salt because back in high school I gave no fucks. I went all in and I don’t regret it one bit. These questions really made me view my future with this blog with the kind of support and people I want around who also support me well. Not to brag but I have a pretty amazing support system, I HIGHLY recommend setting up your support system to help you reach your future. In my future (which for the time limit I’ve given myself is a little less than a year) I see obviously my kids and husband in the same house, my closest of friends, I believe that I will gain more interaction with people who catch my vibes and thus opening up opportunities to meet people from all over the world. I also believe that this won’t feel forced but rewarding as well as heartwarming. I’m hoping to make connections with you, my friends, family, or even a deeper connection with people I know.

In this goal setting segment they talk about changing how I see my problems because if you change how you react to your problems your solutions will then change. So instead of making excuses for myself like “I don’t have time, I’m too busy”- those are my favorites, I needed to change this mindset and my lazy response in helping ME out. I asked myself ‘What about TIME is specifically the problem for me?’ It was letting myself become too free flowing in my day. It doesn’t take me 20 minutes to make a cup of coffee nor does it take that time to wash my face in the morning. My bestest friend Violet says “move with a purpose” and I couldn’t agree more! Put the damn creamer in the cup Pearl and get a move on it we got shit to do. I wrote down what we do everyday from the time we wake up to the time we all go to bed and I’ve set time restrictions for myself and the things we do. Reasonably of course. Let me tell ya, I feel I have an extra two hours in my day just by doing so. It feels good at the end of the night I don’t have m o r e to do cause ya girl be tired. I also had to ask myself “would this be a problem if I started my blog at a different time, a problem if different people were in my life, a problem if my intentions were different?” Okay wow I’ve never asked myself this ever. These questions were helpful in that they put into perspective of why I gave the excuses I did and help me strategize a plan to get to where I want to be. I figured out my WHY (have you figured out yours?) so with that I feel so much more confident in pursing my goal. It comes more naturally now instead of “ugh i don’t waaaannnaaa”. I seriously recommend you take some time and sit down and write down a few goals for yourself that has either been sitting in the back of your mind or something that you’re having trouble pursuing. Ask yourself some challenging questions like above cause i guarantee you’re going to answer some questions and then you’ll erase that after you see it on paper you’ll be like- uhh no thats not what I want. I’m rooting for you.

What really set in with me and hit my heart was whether or not your belief about yourself is positive or negative you will have the evidence to support it. I changed my “I don’t have time, I’m too busy” to “I can find time to do what is important to me”. Please go out and reframe your beliefs that are keeping you from your goals. If you think that you suck then you will also have the feelings to support that. Change can be rewarding especially if you have a plan for it.